Saturday, April 09, 2011


So as I read up on how to prepare my two-year-old for the baby-to-be, I am reminded of how a pediatrician friend described the conflict for me years ago:
"Imagine that your husband comes home one day and says, 'Honey, I'm going to have another wife. She's coming to live with us, and I love her just as much as I love you. But don't worry, you're still special to me! Plus, she's so cute and sweet--you'll love her too!'"
This, my friend says, is how the first child will feel about the new baby, at least for a while.
Oh no! So what, do I have to watch _Sister Wives_ to understand the rollercoaster of emotions my son will have as he deals with this new addition to our family? NO, no, of course not! Besides, that guy's Beauty & the Beast hairdo irritates me no end.
But it does make me wonder how my son will ever understand. My hope is that he enjoys the pride of being a Big Brother, and that as the baby grows up, he learns he can enjoy the kid's company too. That maybe they can even be (dare I write it?) friends?
So, this new anxiety can be added to my list of things to pretend I'm not worried about.
It's going to be a long 9 months.


William Kendall said...

That's another adjustment! I was never in this position, being a younger sibling, but the only child suddenly getting competition for attention... I can see that becoming difficult.

Carla said...

I wouldn't even mention it until you're at least half way! If it makes you feel any better, my "baby" had just turned three when her brother was born and she absolutely loves him. She was a little nervous when she came into the hospital to meet him for the first time, but she adjusted really well. Kids are amazing.


Regina said...

I think all children handle it differently. None of my children had any issues with the new baby at home. It was only when they got older did the sibling rivalry kick in. Best wishes. *hugs*

Betsy said...

Thanks, everybody. So far it's mostly too abstract for him to understand. I know he'll be a good big brother.

Dora Dee said...

Congratulations on your new baby! I don't blame you if you want to sleep rather than write. Enjoy this time as it will go by so fast.

I will be surrounded by babies myself as I'm going to be a great aunt very shortly: two babies coming May/June and the other in July! It will be an exciting summer.