Saturday, November 13, 2010

Book or baby?

Every writer I know struggles to make writing a priority in life. I have this same struggle, recently complicated by my hubby and I wanting to have a second child. In theory, writing a book and having a baby sound like wonderful adventures, on which I could of course focus a lot of time and energy. In reality, they both are starting to freak me out!

Baby? How would this work? How would we juggle two children? Where would they sleep? (Though I've always told my hubby that a baby can sleep in a drawer, I didn't really intend to see that come true.) How on earth would we pay for daycare, diapers, food, for two children? Then what??

Book? How would this happen? How would I make writing enough of a priority to actually finish not only a first draft, but then go edit it and rework it till it's what I want to share? Who would want to read it? Then what??

The biggest struggle right now is trying to find the time to work toward these goals (though I'm not doing both at the same moment, I assure you!). After work, playing with our son, fixing dinner, trying to keep the house from falling in on itself, and all the minutiae of everyday life--who has time to write? Who has energy to procreate?? I barely have the energy to brush my teeth.

So, book or baby, or both or neither? Eek!


Regina said...

Wow honey you seem a little stressed. I don't know what to suggest for you to do. All I know is that I have 5 kiddos and a hubby who makes the sixth one. I have to scrounge for time to write, but love the time I get to spend with them.

Mine are growing up though. 17, 15, 15, 13, and almost 7. The two 15 year olds have driving permits and keep my pretty busy with sports too.

I find time for writing because that is me time and I always can use time for ME!! lol Best wishes on what you decide.

Betsy said...

Thanks, Regina--I was feeling overwhelmed. But writing is great me-time, and I do love it.
And I love my family, and if it can grow with another child, that would be fabulous!
So, we'll see what 2011 holds!

Tanya Reimer said...

Guess what, it'd be easier not to write. I keep telling myself that everyday. Why do I insist on writing novels? I get a daily fix of writing at my work, yet I have to come home and write in as many pockets of time I can steal around raising my children and pretending to clean my house (I really use that time to work out plot issues- but that's our secret.) Why torture ourselves like this?
Because we are writers. Anyone else would have quite by now, so that puts you ahead of the game. Congrats on the babe too, I had to take time off from writing. Years off. I couldn't balance babies, work, life, and writing. Something had to give. But I'm back, and my kids help me, because the rule is, if I write you play, if I clean the house, so do you! We do a lot of playing around my house.